If you want to change the other, change yourself....says Esther Perel in this interview
Esther Perel is one of the persons that the Lovers app is truly in awe of. We love her work, her preciseness, her way of widening the perspectives and how she shares her work with us all.
Below you’ll find two more paragraphs from the same interview at cbc Canada.
What skills should I start honing?
I often tell people, “How many of you find yourself bringing the best of you to work and the leftovers home?” And generally a vast majority of the people raised their hands. Here is this relationship from which we expect so much, but you invest often so little compared to other areas of your life.
You come home, you take off your nice clothes. You sit in that couch ー you chill. You feel like you’ve put all the efforts out to be in the world. But then, don’t come complaining that you want some fire, that you want intensity, that you want excitement, that you want sex, that you want intimacy. That demands a different kind of relationship, a different kind of investment of presence.