… I believe that the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.
Esther Perel
As Esther so well puts it in the quote above, the quality of your life can get better if you add more quality to your relationship. We are glad that you have found us and our app. We wish for you to have good quality in your relationships. In this app we focus on your primary romantic relationship.
As you are here reading this you seem to take your relationship seriously. And it seems you want to work on it. Improve it. Make it more sustainable. Make it a little bit better every day. Having a more qualitative romantic relationship with that special person in your life.
Making an agreement
In partner therapy you might agree to set a few rules in a contract between you while working with a therapist. Rules that might assist you in between the sessions, as well as in the sessions.
As you work with our app it might also be a good idea to set a few rules, make a contract or an agreement as we call it.
Below you will find an example from the book “DIY sex & relationship therapy” by Dr Lori Boul and Dr June Kerr. Feel free to use this or make your own version of an agreement between the two of you.
- I have the right to my own opinions and beliefs.
- I will respect your opinions and beliefs and will not patronize or dismiss them just because they don’t match mine.
- I have the right to say no.
- I will respect your right to say no.
- I will not try to cajole, bully or manipulate you into agreeing with what I want.
- I will not rake up the past.
- I will carry out agreed actions, within agreed timescales.
- I agree to be open and honest in our discussions.
- I agree to give you the opportunity to express your fears and worries without recrimination.
- I will not be verbally or physically aggressive towards you.
Our intention is that we will try to keep each other´s best interest at the forefront of our thoughts, words and actions all the time.
Signed…………………………………………………………………….. Date…………………………….
Signed…………………………………………………………………….. Date…………………………….
All the best to you for taking this step in your relationship. We hope that you will try, and when you fail, remember to get back up again. There is always time to repair.
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