Marriage will not always make you happy, but it will do something even better. It will give you an opportunity to find happiness in peace, in letting go, in learning what’s worth fighting for, in figuring out how to love an imperfect person, in seeing what commitment is and what compromise feels like.
Marriage won’t do the work for you. That work is yours—always and forevermore. The real work is not about finding the right person. It’s about becoming the right person.Brianna West – keep reading the full article at Medium
We believe that as you use The Lovers app – we will provide you with challenges and support to push you in the direction of becoming a better person. At the same time as you develop – all others around you will surely notice the growth and development – and inevitably either grow with you or at least become the better they.
We often say our failed relationships teach us more than anything else. But it’s our ongoing relationships that can really teach us the most. Our interactions with others show us who we are, how we behave, and what we are doing. They can be the most enlightening medium for self-awareness.More from Brianna West
We firmly believe that as you grow as individuals so will your relationship grow and develop. Some of the content in the app you will meet several times. Hopefully from another level of yourself. Each time you encounter content you have met before, make sure to try and see yourself as a person who has “leveled up” in the “game of life”.
Your life partner is an asset to you in the evolution of your becoming, but that partnership is not the whole of your becoming. You can choose to see marriage as a gift, as an incredible privilege. Marriage gives us our walking partners, not our paths. When you view your partner less as your savior and more as the person you get to hang out with until you die, you’re more likely to forgive their shortcomings and accept that they’re not, and never will be, perfect.
Our partners don’t exist to satiate our every emotional need. They exist to be companions — separate, but equal — at once our responsibility, and yet very much out of our control. Learning to love them better is essential. It gives so much more than it takes. When we can strip away the assumption they should be different from who they are, we find something beautiful underneath: harmony. Which is what we’ve been hungry for all along.Also from Brianna West