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    Practice gratitude – a tool for you

    To be grateful can be a useful tool in your life. Science suggests that expressing gratitude boosts both your health and spreads happiness around you. Here are a few simple exercises to help you build your capacity for gratitude. We say “thanks” a dozen or more times a day: when someone holds a door open, bags our groceries, puts a report on our desk. It’s a reflex, an unaware reaction to simple daily happenings. We just say it, most often without really acknowledging the person we’re thanking. It is like a routine. Yet as easy as it is to engage in a “thanks—no problem” exchange in our daily routines, we’re…

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    Eye gazing = connection

    Eye gazing is a speedy way to connect with anyone….or not? The New York Times published an article in 2015 describing an experiment in which two people are made to stare into each other’s eyes for four uninterrupted minutes. It’s been theorized that at the end of the four minutes, each person should feel closer and more connected to the other, no matter their relationship to each other prior to the experiment. Inspired by the article, YouTube’s SoulPancake gathered six couples to test out the theory. Among the couples they recruited was a duo on their fourth date and a married couple who’d been together for 55 years. Each couple…

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    Marriage is not meant to make you happy

    Marriage will not always make you happy, but it will do something even better. It will give you an opportunity to find happiness in peace, in letting go, in learning what’s worth fighting for, in figuring out how to love an imperfect person, in seeing what commitment is and what compromise feels like. Marriage won’t do the work for you. That work is yours—always and forevermore. The real work is not about finding the right person. It’s about becoming the right person. Brianna West – keep reading the full article at Medium We believe that as you use The Lovers app – we will provide you with challenges and support…

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    Do I really have to put in effort to desire my partner?

    A common myth is that there is something serious about the relationship if the parties need to work to keep the fire alive. This can cause sex to become anxious. Yes, that’s it. You need to work on wanting your partner. For the remainder of your relationship. To desire him or her every day. All you want to do or have in life you need to strive for. Apply time and effort. Maybe spend some money on it. Receive help from someone who knows a little more than you right now. You need to focus on what you want to grow in your life. You need to have an intention,…

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    Relationships – the romantic norm or a new classic norm?

    The School of Life has a lot of interesting material that we have looked into as we created the lovers-app. One of them being the book Relationships. In this book they add a new perspective to the existing Romantic norm of relationships which they call the Classical. The current Romantic script is both normative and delusional. Because in order for us to feel normal in our relationship, many of the following things are meant to happen. We should meet a person of extraordinary inner and outer beauty and immediately feel a special attraction to them, and they to us. We should have highly satisfying sex, not only at the start,…