• Cards,  Lust and sex

    Where did you learn about sex?

    As we grow up in a family, community and society we all receive messages around sex. Some are subtle, others very clear. It is very useful for us all to understand more of where our conceptions, beliefs and thoughts origin from. Once we can see them as not attached to us, maybe also understand why we believe a certain thing, once we can understand and be more aware of where we learned about sex – then we can learn to change our beliefs and thoughts to the ones we would like to have. What messages did you hear in your childhood about sex? Or the opposite…what did you not hear?…

  • Cards,  Lust and sex

    I turn myself on when I…

    I turn myself on when I…… or You turn me on when you……. When you are talking to yourself or to your partner around turn ons and turn offs, what does it sound like? Are you taking responsibility for turning yourself on, for your arousal?Or are you letting your partner take all the responsibility for your arousal and excitement? Do you need your partner to ignite your arousal, turning you on to want sex?How is your usual internal conversation or the one with your partner? Can you take more responsibility than today and keep your arousal simmering? Can you own your excitement around sex? Can you turn your own arousal…