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    The Lovers Relationship Programme

    Since the end of May 2020 a new product from the Lovers have been in progress. It is still a work in progress but we are happy to announce that our Relationship Programme will be available to couples who apply to be part of this year long program. At the end of January our first prototype course will be held on the island of Gotland. A Corona-safe sized group will take part as well as give feedback and input of how to progress this product to more of you. Why a relationship program? We believe, know (and are proud stealers and borrowers of the relationship research available, that all say)…

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    The Lovers App 2.0

    Maybe you all have noticed that on a technical level things have not been as good as we all had hoped for. Our developers, from the start of our app, have not been up to scratch and they have disappointed us many times. It feels so good at this moment to be able to tell you that we have moved our business to a new supplier that seems much more promising. Getting everything moved takes a bit of time but things can’t get any worse as it seems that many users have stopped receiving Cards from the App. Hopefully the new developers will manage to fix the current problems very…

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    the Snippets – our podcast

    During the autumn of 2020 a new seed has taken root and will grow healthily into a plant of some sort during the year of 2021. It started as we were out walking our beloved dog, Snowy. During our walks we talk a lot about relationships, ours and others. We also talk a far amount of what research has to say about relationships, as well as what other prominent persons (Esther, John, Julie, David, Emily, etc) gives us insights into. So, one day we realized we would extend our products and offerings to you all. This time with our version of a podcast. We call them the Snippets. Our aim…

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    To bid – crucible and small

    At the Gottman Lab couples spent 24 hours in an apartment, built into a lab. The couples started as newlyweds and came back annually for six years. Most couples ate, read, watched TV, talked and slept. As they were being monitored and later on also being looked upon through the eyes of a researcher. This is what Julie and John writes in their book; “10 principles for doing effective couples therapy”. “Janice Driver spent years working in the apartment lab, trying to ferret out what predicted sustained friendship and intimacy in these newlyweds. Driver was particularly intrigued by the minutiae of their smallest exchanges – the turn of a heat,…

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    Fight fair and repair

    Fight Fair and Repair – from the Chapter ”Agree to disagree”Excerpt from the book Eight Dates by John & Julie Schwartz Gottman and Doug Abrams & Rachel Carlton Abrams “Fights are going to happen in any relationship – it’s inevitable and it’s healthy – but research shows that couples who are genuinely happy in their marriage or relationship handle their conflicts in gentle, positive ways. They listen to their partners perspective, they seek to understand their partner, and they work together to find a compromise that works for them both.  Sometimes we say and do things that damage our partner. We forget seeking understanding, and we give a 20-minute diatribe…