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    “in a non-judgmental way”

    As you will find (or already have found) we encourage you very often to listen to your partner while s/he shares something with you. Reflecting together. Listening when someone shares a story from their childhood, an event from the day och their biggest passion. Whatever it is that is being shared, your task is to listen as closely as possible. Without any judging thoughts or remarks. Listen with your curiosity. Listen to really hear not only what is being said, but perhaps how it is being said, if there are any facial expressions, or body language. Take all of that in. And do leave all of your preconceptions at the…

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    Fantasies about sex

    To have sexual fantasies is easy for some and more difficult for others. In my sex-talk groups I have met a lot of women who share with the group that they never fantasize. About sex. Never. I usually ask them to give themselves permission to let that part of their erotic intelligence wake up. To fantasize is just like any other super-power. It can be hidden when you want to. No one knows you own it. But it will make you into a better lover. For your self and your partner. Next time you notice something turning you on, do not smash it and shove it under the mental carpet.…

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    The art of seduction

    Seduction. So easy or so damn difficult? Easier to be seduced, to feel seduced or easier to seduce someone else? Our brain is our biggest sexual organ. Yep. That is, if you like us believe in the erotic intelligence. That you, with your mind and senses, can be seduced and turned on (or off) in the blink of an eye. Or close to that. So how do you become more erotic intelligent? One of the steps is by coming aware of what you like and dislike. What turns you on and off. What your partner like and dislike. Plus be willing to explore these areas together. How you do it?Well,…

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    4 silly questions…

    The questions What’s your favorite animal and why? What’s your second favorite animal and why? What’s your favorite beverage and why? What do you think when you see the sea? The true meaning to the answers Are you ready for the explanations to see the “meanings” that these answers describe? Check them out in the link here or read more below. This game from Mr Bas Klinkhamer is a game using the psychological mechanism of  projection. Question 1 is about the qualities that you appreciate in yourself, and of which you are aware. Question 2 is about qualities you also have, but of which you are less aware – or…

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    The importance of sexting

    In a relationship, sooner or later the mundane will take over and, the communication that takes place between the lovers changes. The initial texting that consisted of “I love you-s” and maybe setting up some scenarios for next date, or explicit wishes for sex simply vanishes. And sooner or later the communication in texting during the days and even at home might consist only of who´s doing the shopping, or picking up the kids, buying the birthday gift for the mother in law, or other very practical details to make life, work and family function as optimal as possible. Choose a sexting tool To keep communicating to your partner as…

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    Do I really have to put in effort to desire my partner?

    A common myth is that there is something serious about the relationship if the parties need to work to keep the fire alive. This can cause sex to become anxious. Yes, that’s it. You need to work on wanting your partner. For the remainder of your relationship. To desire him or her every day. All you want to do or have in life you need to strive for. Apply time and effort. Maybe spend some money on it. Receive help from someone who knows a little more than you right now. You need to focus on what you want to grow in your life. You need to have an intention,…