Eye gazing = connection

Eye gazing is a speedy way to connect with anyone….or not? The New York Times published an article in 2015 describing an experiment in which two people are made to stare into each other’s eyes for four uninterrupted minutes. It’s been theorized that at the end of the four minutes, each person should feel closerContinue reading “Eye gazing = connection”

Where did you learn about sex?

As we grow up in a family, community and society we all receive messages around sex. Some are subtle, others very clear. It is very useful for us all to understand more of where our conceptions, beliefs and thoughts origin from. Once we can see them as not attached to us, maybe also understand whyContinue reading “Where did you learn about sex?”

I turn myself on when I…

I turn myself on when I…… or You turn me on when you……. When you are talking to yourself or to your partner around turn ons and turn offs, what does it sound like? Are you taking responsibility for turning yourself on, for your arousal?Or are you letting your partner take all the responsibility forContinue reading “I turn myself on when I…”

The importance of sexting

In a relationship, sooner or later the mundane will take over and, the communication that takes place between the lovers changes. The initial texting that consisted of “I love you-s” and maybe setting up some scenarios for next date, or explicit wishes for sex simply vanishes. And sooner or later the communication in texting duringContinue reading “The importance of sexting”

Are you bringing the best of you to work and the leftovers of you home?

If you want to change the other, change yourself. …says Esther Perel in this interview Esther Perel is one of the persons that the Lovers app is truly in awe of. We love her work, her preciseness, her way of widening the perspectives and how she shares her work with us all. Below you’ll findContinue reading “Are you bringing the best of you to work and the leftovers of you home?”

Do I really have to put in effort to desire my partner?

A common myth is that there is something serious about the relationship if the parties need to work to keep the fire alive. This can cause sex to become anxious. Yes, that’s it. You need to work on wanting your partner. For the remainder of your relationship. To desire him or her every day. AllContinue reading “Do I really have to put in effort to desire my partner?”

Partner as child

The terrible tantrums and seemingly unannounced multitude of feelings that a child can produce can be seen as outrageously mean. However, as we meet them as adults where they are in their tantrum or feeling of hurt, we can see them as just how they are. We do not think that they are doing thisContinue reading “Partner as child”

The Lovers app – DIY therapy

Research has shown that it is possible to overcome problems without professional help. In the Lovers app we know that you are the real experts of your relationship. Mening that you have all chances to create a successful relationship of your own making. The Lovers App might not work for everyone. If you are committedContinue reading “The Lovers app – DIY therapy”

To hold space for each other

Anonymous Alcoholics – surely you have heard, read or seen some parts of that work through watching series on Netflix or other channels. What have the AA to do with this app? The Lovers App? Well, as it turns out you need to create a space for each other in your relationship where you canContinue reading “To hold space for each other”

Relationships – the romantic norm or a new classic norm?

The School of Life has a lot of interesting material that we have looked into as we created the lovers-app. One of them being the book Relationships. In this book they add a new perspective to the existing Romantic norm of relationships which they call the Classical. The current Romantic script is both normative andContinue reading “Relationships – the romantic norm or a new classic norm?”